Why would it be worse to embrace and celebrate the culture you grew up with? It sounds quite rich, you’re making me want to visit California for the first time. Why does your culture need to be artificially related to your genetics? And what if, some years or decades in the future, you’ll feel like you’ve missed out on appreciating and celebrating the culture you grew up with because you rather focused on the culture of your distant cousins?

They can be helpful if you view them light heartedly as anonymous support groups where you can vent real quick. Not as actual qualified resources.