Roundcat

I think the we should use fediverse with the expectations we had using the internet of old: Don’t post anything you want to keep secret, and anything you put online is potentially permanent.

I was always a little skeevy towards Facebook and other major social media sites when everyone was encouraged to use real names, post personal details, and share real photos of themselves and friends. Hell I still don’t get how people here share everything from faces to nudes and not expect their privacy to be compromised.

Agreed. Legal or not, I wouldn’t even want to encourage that kind of sexualization.

Yay, another week of higher than normal activity, until the fomo kicks back in and they leave yet again cause “everyone is on X/this is sooo complicated/I just wanna see the fallout/whatever excuse justifies their addiction”

I mean more so than expected. I guess years of reddit related brainrot conditions one to expect the worst constantly.

So basically Blahajzone became queer lemmyworld, when Ada’s intentions were probably more akin to queer Beehaw.

If this is the case, I do hope another public facing queerspace does take blahajzone’s place. It’s been kinda nice to see such a group just accepted as part of the larger community, and it would be a damn shame to see them become cloistered off.

I mean, welcome to being queer. My sister basically has to live like that or otherwise she gets arrested or possibly murdered. The terrorist more or less do dictate her life.

Like I understand the frustration of being defederated, especially over an accusation as heavy as this. But I can’t blame the bahaj team either for trying to be extra careful of making sure their community doesn’t become a target for anyone trying to demonize them. I believe you when you say the content is legal, but it’s not going to make a difference when someone like libsoftiktok screen cap adorableporn from the blajah instance and try to twist it into making them to be pedophiles. Also unless the OP makes it clear, it’s not like the pictures themselves can vouche for their age.

I would like to hear more from Blahaj users, because for the most part, this thread has been listening to NSFW complain about the defedding, and expressing outrage, speculation and judgement about the defedding, from users who are ultimately unaffected by this defedding. I want to know if this is something their users agree with or not, from the users themselves.

Also, Blahaj isn’t the only major instance to defed NSFW, but because of the nature of their sub, they seem to get the most attention over it.

I guess it beats not liking the conversation and it becoming locked.

Depending on the country, depictions of fauxbait can either be ay okay or borderline illegal. In places like Australia and Ireland, they have laws that are aimed at hentai, but because of the way they are worded, could also include fauxbait as well.

I’m sure discussion here will remain pleasant and mature with no problematic views, opinions or suggestions being thrown around at all.

I’m just wondering what you are sharing that is getting you censored off of most of the major instances. Something illegal? Something morally reprehensible that most regular people take objection to it? Like I understand Beehaw being very uptight about what they allow (to the point of defederating most major instances) but world just seems free for all but the most extreme views, ml will allow straight up genocide and warcrime denial as long as it’s China or Russia, and shitjustworks seems to be gamers in general, left or right.

Like there are instances that are just basically unmoderated free speech zones if that’s what you’re looking for. There are even instances that are echochambers for your political leanings if that’s what you are actually looking for. But most of the major instances are going to be catering for a more general userbase. Afterall, part of the reason world became the biggest is because it’s the one most former redditors were pointed to.

And the reality is, and part of the reason I’m apprehensive about Meta joining the fediverse, is because even in a decentralized environment, communities, opinions, topics and activity all becomes centralized around whichever community is the biggest. The internet itself is a decentralized network, but since everyone gathers in the same places, it ultimately became centralized around sites like reddit, insta, youtube, and twitter. That’s one of the reasons we are encouraged as fedi users to join smaller instances. Not just to save on space and traffic, but to encourage the activity in our local communities to grow.

people complaining about the smallest slight

How is this different from here or reddit?

I don’t. Most of the people on Mastodon seem pretty cool, and honestly I would rather not see half the people I see on twitter.

As much as I hate meta and hate the idea of threads federating with us, ultimately you should be able to find or create an instance that aligns with your idea of defeding with them. I would ultimately want the admin of my instance to side with the majority of users rather than drag users kicking and screaming into following their lead.

Besides, if you truly wanted more control over your web experience, we should be more decentralized. Like what the hell are we all doing on the same instance, and being shocked that the decisions of a small group of people is going to affect so many of us. Like we were all encouraged to join smaller instances or make our own precisely for this reason. Like hypothetically, if every popular community was in its own instance, rather than centralized around world, ml, beehaw and kbin, Meta federating with us would not be a big deal. Every community would be able to decide whether they wanted to associate with them or not, and we would be too spread out for it to be worth Meta’s while.

Maybe this should be a wake up call for some of ya’ll. Spread out and take your own actions, rather than wait for the big instances’ admins to act for you.

If kbin allows them to federate here, then I’m out of here.