The court thing is not universally true. I worked in a family law firm for several years, and the practice in the courts here is to start from a baseline of equal custody and placement, and I’ve heard the same about other states. The men who lost out were the ones who wouldn’t fight, because they were convinced that the courts were biased. But hell, in one case, we got full custody and placement for a guy whose son wasn’t even biologically his! (His wife cheated, and he didn’t find out until well after they’d emotionally bonded.)

I have a couple of suggestions to add:

I was considering leaving the other site before the API fiasco because it felt like so many users approach engagement as rhetorical combat, that is, the point of discussion is to defeat the other person. Instead, think one of Covey’s habits of highly-effective people: “Win-win, or no deal.” Approach discussion on the Fediverse as a collaborative act, in which you’re exchanging ideas with another person. Even if you disagree, you can both win by respectfully hearing out the other person. And if the other person won’t collaborate? No deal! Just disengage.

Just like in intimate relationship, use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. Telling people who they are and what they believe is not only disrespectful, but probably wrong, often exaggerated or distorted for rhetorical combat purposes. People get angry when their identity gets poked at. One exception, of course, is when giving advice, like, stick to what you know, and share your thoughts and your reactions to a topic.

I love the critical mass metaphor for Lemmy. Posts and comments are the neutrons that knock free other posts and comments after reaching other people. If we spread out our fissile material into hundreds of tiny pails, then the neutrons just fly away into the air without having any effect.

Yesterday was the first day that Lemmy activity tipped over the threshold, and there were too many overnight posts for me to read all of them over breakfast.

Relevant history. If you were there, you remember the call of the wild AOL’er, “Me too,” ringing 'cross the network, usually as a top-posted comment.

I feel like there’s a lot of information missing here. VLANs operate at OSI layer 2, and Immich connects to its ML server via IP in layer 3. It could talk to a remote server in Ecuador over the Internet, so the layer 2 configuration is irrelevant.

What you have is an issue of routing IP packets between subnets. You just need to set up a rule on your router to allow the Immich server on the Internet-facing IP subnet to connect to the correct port(s) for the ML server on the private subnet. Or maybe use the router’s port-forwarding feature. Lacking further information about the setup, I have to be vague here. In any case, it’s conceptually the same as punching a hole in the firewall to let IP packets from an Immich server in Ecuador get to the ML server on your private subnet, except that the server is not in Ecuador.

This is madness, but since this is a hobby project and not a production server, there is a way:

• Shrink the filesystems on the existing disks to free up as much space as possible, and shrink their partitions.
• Add a new partition to each of the three disks, and make a RAID5 volume from those partitions.
• Move as many files as possible to the new RAID5 volume to free up space in the old filesystems.
• Shrink the old filesystems/partitions again.
• Expand each RAID component partition one at a time by removing it from the array, resizing it into the empty space, and re-adding it to the array, giving plenty of time for the array to rebuild.
• Move files, shrink the old partitions, and expand the new array partitions as many times as needed until all the files are moved.

This could take several days to accomplish, because of the RAID5 rebuild times. The less free space, the more iterations and the longer it will take.

If you can assign a second IP address to the network interface, then just do so, and bind the docker container to one, and Adguard Home to the other. Otherwise, the reverse proxy based on the server name is the way.

Lemmy feels so much like the early IRC or Fark days. In '93, if you were in a chat system, there was a damned good chance you were nerdy college student.

It’s possible that you were a horny college student, and then you’d be on ISCA BBS.

It doesn’t have to be a seismic shift. Geocities and Angelfire (still around. BTW) were corporate, they needed to make money, and when the free web hosting somehow failed to make money, the corporate owners shut them down.

The Fediverse is decentralized. It doesn’t have to get huge, or make a lot of money. It can carry on for as long as it has enough users to carry on. Heck, the biggest BBS that I used back in the day had 23 phone lines. Several hundred regular users, but only 23 could connect at a time. It even survived a few years into the Internet era.

That is to say that Lemmings don’t have to ‘win’ some sort of imaginary competition by taking all of the users from the other site. People used and enjoyed those bygone systems while they lasted, and we can do the same.