First of all, don’t feel be guilty or ashamed about this, you’d be surprised by the number of people who wish for “a non-fatal car accident” or the like. That’s sad in it’s own right, but my point is it’s not just you.

I have a medical condition that will require life long monitoring, and was boring until it wasn’t, and I spent like a year planning a major surgery. I still have to deal with that “looking over my shoulder” part. Only mentioning to say: your treatment doesn’t seem better because you were in treatment, it seems better because you were a kid. Adult life is hard, and it’s harder when you have complex medical considerations even if they’re under control. Your friends will not understand the unique pressure associated with the usual trials and tribulations of becoming an adult while also managing your own care. After all “you’re not sick anymore” right?! (sarcasm if it wasn’t obvious).

If at all possible, I highly recommend reaching out to a mentor network. I signed up to mentor around my condition specifically for reasons like this. I won’t say much about my mentee, but the timing of a big procedure meant they went from a covid era high school to a covid era college followed by a major ass procedure (with that procedure looming over them the whole time). I was an adult with a full ass job by the time I had mine, but I was still budgeting care while my friends were budgeting weddings. The isolation of disease when you’re young is terrible.

Find other people to talk to that have been there. You’ll find you’re not alone, even in your darkest thoughts. As you do, extend the ladder back down to those coming behind you. I found a lot of peace in mentoring, in being the person I wish I had.

None of this will make it easy, but it might make it easier.

Exactly. Whats funny is facebook could have done this in like… 2010. Like I’m fairly certain I had “group pages” back then that were a very small number of people. But you’re right, the channel thing is crazy useful. Like my one group has 3 people, but we’ve got like 50 topics. It’s gotten to the point there are archives, ie: the “thanksgiving” channel moves from the “archive” group to “general” group around mid sept.

I’ve also been lucky enough to avoid having it be work related. Like I have slack for work, that notification noise is the devil, where as the discord notification noise means my buddy is posting pictures of his kid.

1000% agree. Like I use it for some spread out family (one server) and college friends. There’s <5 people in each. I think eventually forums will adopt the fediverse infrastructure. I’m on an old school forum for my vehicle, and it’s great. It’s direct out of 2010, it wouldn’t suprise me if those kind of sites brought in all the code that the fediverse runs off of. As a casual observer, that’s really what lemmy seems like to me: “what if 2005 internet, where people managed their own webpages, but it ran on a common architecture that made it easier to cross-link with other sites if you wanted?”

They do still exist, I have a specific but popular vehicle, and there’s a dedicated forum style site directly from 2011.

In a perfect world, that would be folded into the “fediverse” protocols, but like they’re already paying their own hosting etc. In the end that’s all reddit did: absorb some nominal hosting and IT for exposure. It made sense for hype niche communities, which is how reddit grew, but now that they’re killing control of the communities… Well… It turns out people were willing to pay for those servers back when they were expensive…

Discord is amazing for a step beyond group messages. I have no idea how it got into a roll as a “community tool”.

you are correct. On holiday with a few beers I’m surprised I got that close lol

For anyone in that spot of being savvy-ish but having fellow users that finally got used to plex:

A work around is Xteve and owncast. I was successfully able to make an owncast broadcast into a “DVR channel”.

Its cluegy but it does work. My tech level in this stuff is spotty. I’m used to stacks of tech but more for physical control systems (NOT consumer facing). But I was able to get that to work.

Edit: little bit of clarification: Xteve will let you add DVR to your plex server. It’s possible to tie owncast into Xteve. That allows users to cue into a “DVR” channel which is kind of “simulcasting” whatever you’re pointing owncast to. In my case it was a screen share of sportsball, but it could be whatever.

I love this. I have a box I’ve been wanting to move to a family members place because they have fiber and I don’t. They’re heavy users of the plex server I have on there, so they’re happy to host it, but if I ever had issues around anything boot related I’d be down until I could physically get there.

This would also be awesome for troubleshooting some RasPi stuff where I kind of want the DE every now and then but mostly let it run headless.

To each their own and all that, but for my time, I agree with you Plex still has the edge in UI by a wide margin. The advertised content is super annoying but it is possible to trim it.

also, after implementing my pi-hole, I’m not crazy about the fact plex keeps trying to send out analytics.