I think that having a choice about what instance you join and whether it’s liberal or conserative about defederating is the beauty of federation. someone might want to be on an instance that’s quick on the trigger about banning for transphobia, racism, etc, because they’re going through some shit in their lives, and later want to experience the greater variety of an instance where banning takes more consideration.
Like, I think you’re right about what you want for you, but people wanting different things and being able to get it is pretty great.
I recently adopted a pet, and I keep wondering which new social media can replace what facebook offers to animal shelters and other charity orgs. Like, so long as they get that stream of donations, adoptions, and volunteers directly from facebook, they aren’t leaving without hurting their #1 priority.